I’m So Fancy

O has a decisive personality; he knows what he likes and what he doesn’t – even when it comes to fashion and design.

He won’t hesitate to declare “No.” to your outfit as you emerge from the bedroom and is happy to hand-pick a more appropriate option. He’s also liberal with the praise…one look at G’s Vera Bradley bag or new dangly earrings and he exclaims “Oooh! I like that!”  We’ve found that O is just as likely to pile on the puppy purses at the store, swinging them gleefully from his shoulders, as he is to settle into the dirt with a dinosaur or dump truck.  G and I are pretty pleased with his interest in diversification and as an artist, I love that he has an eye for color, design and composition. I love that he doesn’t shy away from typically marketed “girl” items, though I don’t know why every piece of Dora the Explorer merch has to be pink.  Most of all, I love his confidence and his commitment to that which makes him happy.

If he wants a spangly, purple bag, so be it. If he wants a race car trucker hat, I’m fine with that too.  We don’t believe in segregating toys by gender. He has a train track and tea set, a basketball hoop and a play kitchen.  My own parents always let me be me – even if it meant having their daughter dress as a 19th century “newsie” complete with suspenders and pageboy cap.  G’s family often tells of the football helmet she wore everywhere as a kid – even to church.  I always recognized and appreciated my family’s support of my personal expression and it’s that same kind of unconditional acceptance that O will always receive from his parents, sequined purse or not.

O fashioning several pieces of Baba's wardrobe.
O fashioning several pieces of Baba’s wardrobe.

Author: The Baba 'Hood

Brianne L. Croteau is a Huffington Post featured contributor, speaker, writer, artist, and founder of The Baba ‘Hood, a chronicle of her adventures as a “Baba”, or non-binary parent. In addition to journaling her observations on life, love, parenting, growing older and other related ridiculousness, Brianne’s work has been published in Motherly, Curve Magazine, Well Rounded NY and Tagg Magazine. She lives in a full house with her wife, two young kids, and two rascally kittens and is currently in need of a lot more sleep. Follow along at www.huffingtonpost.com/brianne-l-croteau or contact her directly at thebabahood@gmail.com. Her work can also be found at www.croteaustrategies.com/art.

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